Raise kids who become awesome adults



Positive discipline  

I knew everything about kids before having my own.

Then tantrums, sibling rivalry and homework battles happened and I learned the true meaning of, tedious, infuriating and lonely. So I set out to debunk how to: 

  • Disarm power struggles 
  • Stay loving even when setting firm boundaries
  • Inspire kids to take responsibility, have empathy, problem-solve
  • Lighten up, spend less time lecturing, feel close as a family

I found that Positive Discipline helped me deepen my connection to my kids and feel confident about my parenting choices.


Kai kunkel

At the heart of Positive Discipline is the relationship we have with our children. It becomes their model in life. The Positive Discipline philosophy challenges us to ask ourselves, "what do I want to teach my kids?" Then spells out for us how to teach it. 

I want to teach my kids to learn from mistakes, follow their curiosity, persevere, resolve conflicts peacefully, give generously. Above all, I want to teach my children that they matter, they belong and I've got their backs no matter what. 

I'm a mom of two,

Certified Positive Discipline Parent Educator, 
Positive Discipline Association

Special Ed. Instructional Aide, Seattle Public Schools

Family Workshop Facilitator, Seattle Public Schools

Former Sexuality Educator,
Planned Parenthood of the Great Northwest and the Hawaiian Islands

Former WA State Childcare Trainer

Former Owner of Birdsnest Childcare



Kai is a skilled facilitator. She brought together 12 mamas and created a space for people to feel comfortable and vulnerable. Excellent training!
— Robin Holmstrom
It’s helpful to learn theory and research along with shared stories and strategies from other moms in the trenches.
— Molly Powell
It is a gift to yourself to take time to think about your parenting.
— Bree Mitchell

Free Parent Talks

These introductory workshops are rooted in positive discipline philosophy and current brain science. They're practical, welcoming, and fun. You don't need to register, just show up! Held at Green Lake UMC, upstairs from GLSA 6415 1st Ave NE Seattle, WA 98115. Feel free to email me with questions: kaikunkel@gmail.com

July 12, 7-8pm

Green Lake UMC

Clear away the nagging, bribing and yelling. Debunk how to get kids to listen in ways that leave them and you feeling calm, connected and confident.
More lighthearted; respected.    



Siblings & Friends
July 26, 7-8pm

Green Lake UMC

No name calling or having to settle arguments—just smoother play dates and siblings who share and crack-up together. We’ll get to the heart of how to lead kids there. 




Taming tantrums
aug 16, 7-8pm

Green Lake UMC

From toddlers to tweens, some kids' feelings are LOUD! We’ll discuss how to keep from losing it ourselves while helping kids quiet the screech.





happier routines
Aug 30, 7-8pm

Green Lake UMC

Let’s get routines in order for fall—so we're all out the door faster, doing chores without meltdowns, and feeling more chill at bedtime.